The key is to hold on to others(zhua zhu bie ren de ba bing shi guan jian )

In dealing with others, if you grasp the other party's handle, or embezzle public funds, or accept bribes, he has to listen to you honestly. Because you have cut off his back, the other side in the attack hopeless, no way back, you have to be at your disposal. In Han Dynasty, Zhu Bo was originally a military officer. Later, he was transferred to Zuo Fengyi as a local civil servant. He used some ingenious means to subdue the local evil forces, and was widely praised by people.

In the Changling area, there was a man named Shang Fangjin who came from a rich family. When he was young, he raped other people's wives and was stabbed in the cheek with a knife. Such a villain should have been severely punished, because he had greatly bribed the officials, but he was not dismissed, and finally he was promoted to guard.

After Zhu Bo took office, someone told him about it. Zhu Bo thinks that's unreasonable! See Shang Fang ban. Shang Fang, with his heart full of turmoil, came to see Zhu Bo. Zhu Bo carefully looked at Shang Fangban's face and found a scar. He retreated to the left and right, pretending to be very concerned.

Shang Fang was guilty of being a thief. Knowing that Zhu Bo had known his situation, he kowtowed to Zhu Bo like a chicken pecking rice, telling the truth about the incident. He didn't dare to lift his head. He just begged: "please forgive me. I won't do that kind of cruel things in the future."

"Ha ha ha..." Zhu Bo burst out laughing and said, "it's inevitable that this kind of thing would happen. I want to show my shame for you and give you a chance to make contributions. Can you serve yourself? "

Therefore, Zhu Bo ordered Shangfang not to disclose today's conversation to anyone, and asked him to record the remarks of some other officials and report to Zhu Bo in time. Shangfang ban seems to have become Zhu Bo's confidant, ears and eyes.

Since Zhu Bo's leniency, Shangfang ban has always kept Zhu Bo's great kindness in mind. Therefore, he worked very hard. Soon after, he cracked many criminal cases such as theft and rape. His work has been very effective and greatly improved the local public security situation.

Anyone who has a plan knows that to grasp a knife is to grasp the handle, and to make a person is to hold the handle. If you want people to be controlled by themselves, you have to grasp other people's weaknesses and handle, find weaknesses in the opponent, and let him use them for us. This method is very effective.

Chinese PinYin : Zhua Zhu Bie Ren De Ba Bing Shi Guan Jian