How to overcome the evasive psychology(ru he ke fu tao bi xin li )

(1) To bear the consequences of their own behavior: if a person does not have a sense of responsibility for themselves, it will not have a sense of responsibility for others. Let him start with small things, such as buying vegetables, cooking and washing clothes at home; going out to earn money instead of waiting for his family to support him; having a goal in life, supporting himself and affirming himself.

(2) Don't bow in the face of bad luck: there is a weakness in human nature, which is to regard bad luck as an insurmountable obstacle. People will encounter difficulties or even great disasters in their life. The problem is that when some people are faced with difficulties, they are fearless and indomitable. They regard difficulties as a test and turn them into a positive and favorable factor. When some people encounter difficulties, they are afraid to shrink back and complain. They regard difficulties as an insurmountable obstacle or even an misfortune in life. An immature person can always regard what makes him different as a defect or an obstacle, and then expect to receive special treatment. Mature people are not. They will first recognize their differences, and then see whether they want to accept them or improve them.

(3) Have your own faith and put it into action: a person without faith is like a boat of life without a navigation mark. You don't know where you are going. Of course, faith alone is not enough to make us mature. The advantage of faith is that it can increase courage, so that when we are tested, we will not retreat. Unless we take faith as the basis and then put it into action, no principle of reason is useful.

(4) Learn to get rid of the misfortune in life: the happy ending of people is not a simple and stable joy, but a vigorous struggle with misfortune. Accept the inevitable and let time heal the pain; take action to resist the dilemma; focus on helping others; make the most of your life in your lifetime; calculate the happiness we have.

Chinese PinYin : Ru He Ke Fu Tao Bi Xin Li