How to overcome perfectionism(ru he ke fu wan mei zhu yi )

(1) Accept the flaw: there is no flaw in things, blind pursuit of an illusory realm can only be futile. Life can never be plain sailing. When encountering setbacks and being in a low ebb, self-confidence and optimism are particularly important. We must not abandon ourselves. Learn to look at problems from a different perspective. It is precisely because there are problems in life that make you feel depressed and desperate that you will make more efforts and know how to cherish what you get. Even if things are not satisfactory, even if they fail, they can constitute your rich life experience as well as success, which is not in vain. Only by enduring the sorrow of failure can one reach the peak of success. Don't blame yourself for not being perfect.

(2) Correct understanding of self: do not overestimate your ability, let alone feel inferior. If everything is perfect, it will be an obstacle to you. We should cultivate self-esteem, pride and work interest in our strengths, and not compete with others in our weaknesses.

Don't be too harsh on yourself. Don't be cautious in order to make everyone around you satisfied with you. Be a bit of "go your own way". Do things as long as you are worthy of your own efforts and conscience, and don't care too much about others' evaluation of yourself. Otherwise, setbacks may lead to physical and mental fatigue.

(3) Set reasonable short-term goals: in fact, when you don't want to be perfect, but just want to perform well, you tend to achieve the best results unexpectedly. Find a thing that you can do well, and then do it well. In this way, you will feel relaxed and natural, act with confidence, and feel more creative and productive. Your life will be enriched and colorful.

(4) Treat others leniently: perfectionists are careful and thoughtful people, but you should be careful not to always point out other people's mistakes and make others resentful or nervous. And don't do everything because other people don't do what you want, especially for your children. You like to be clean and tidy, but be careful not to make your family and friends feel that it's not appropriate to stay anywhere in your home.

Chinese PinYin : Ru He Ke Fu Wan Mei Zhu Yi