Don't be fooled

Don't be fooled

Guan Dai, male, born in Jinan, Shandong Province, is a writer and traveler. His representative works include the 2006 novel next to heaven and DV work next to heaven.

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You or I, walking day by day in this reinforced concrete city, occasionally feel tired. Sometimes I want to put down all the tedious work, open a bar, be a bookstore owner, make a movie, write a book, and walk alone However, many people just think about it. But I don't care. Guan Dai likes to live a free and unrestricted life. For this, he works hard, insists and pays the price. At 7 p.m., 21st floor, Nanjing International Trade Center. open the wooden door of the bar. The interior is not big, but the decoration is very chic. Small tables and chairs, soft sofas, warm lights, nice jazz, just like the rumored "home" feeling. Guan Dai stands in front of the French window, smiling, very young. Behind him is the bustling night scene of Xinjiekou, with brilliant lights. Guests usually wait until after nine o'clock before they arrive, and the silence at this time is called "the most enjoyable time of the day", a person, a glass of wine and an acoustic guitar. he changed a CD of Lisa Ono, and we began to chat aimlessly in the music.

The life of guandai

Guan Dai has gone through many places and changed careers. In 1998, he came to Shenzhen from Zhuhai. At that time, Shenzhen began to bubble. During the day, he worked in a company. At night, he played guitar in a bar with a small band he rented. He became a part-time singer and gradually fell in love with this kind of free life. Since then, Guan Dai has a wish in his heart: to have a bar of his own. In 2001, he was stationed in Nanjing as the general manager of Jiangsu company. After that, he was promoted to the regional general manager and took charge of the four provincial companies in South China, which was already a very high position. At that time, he was still under 30 years old. Regardless of career achievements or age, people are envious. However, he chose to resign unexpectedly. Wandering for so long, walking through so many cities, Guan Dai wanted to stay for the first time and began to realize some of his wishes, such as opening a small bar. He had some money in his pocket, so he was full of courage and courage. In 2002, the commercial house of 200 square meters on the 21st floor of the international trade center was sold for 1.4 million yuan in cash. The bar is next to paradise. It means "urban people who live in heaven and lose their spirit in hell, struggling between reality and dream". At first, it was positioned as a minority group who liked literature, music and tourism, and its theme was making friends at home. At that time, all the people who came were friends. They set up a discussion board on the West Temple. Everyone wrote posts every day and talked about literature and music. For a while, it was very lively, just like snowballing, and welcomed more and more guests. "Next door to heaven" soon attracted media attention. In 2004, a reporter from a media in Nanjing, after a secret interview, with the title of "revealing secrets of one night stand in a bar", made a full page report on the activities of making friends such as short messages and sending notes from "next door to heaven", pointing out that "one night stand" is surging here. He criticized that "once social activities are separated from responsibility, people's behavior will no longer be lovely.". This report even went to the front page of sina.com and had a great influence. Interestingly, less than 8:30 on the evening of the newspaper, the "next door to heaven" was full, full of men. the popularity of "next door to paradise" has been further enhanced. Guan Dai was very depressed about this: "this deviated from my original intention, the report made all kinds of people come to hear the news, but those people with real level did not dare to come." It wasn't until three months later that the atmosphere began to turn around. Most of the men who are eager to have sex find that "one night stand" is just a boring gimmick. is there a "one night stand" next to heaven? Guan Dai thinks that the bar only provides a platform for adults to make friends. As for the ending, whether "one night stand" or not is someone else's life choice.

The growth of guandai

Guan Dai was born in the 1970s. Like all people of the same age, Guan Dai was branded with the brand of the times: the first to receive formal education, the first to taste puppy love, and the last generation of idealists. He is a child of an ordinary family in Jinan, Shandong Province. He is the only boy in the family and has two elder sisters. Although beloved, but also carrying a glorious family hope. Since he was a child, his father asked him to think about University. Guan Dai said with a smile that he was a "problem youth" with autistic adolescence. In his young memory, there are two things that he can remember deeply. First, he filled in the college entrance examination. Guan Dai is still worried about it. Guan Dai's liberal arts achievement is particularly good, which can be seen from his later writing. Before the college entrance examination, he was determined to learn Chinese, but his father did not agree. His father came from a working background. In those days, science students were more popular than arts students. In his father's tireless persuasion, Guan Dai had no interest at all and chose an electronics major at will. after entering the University, because he didn't like his major, Guan Dai felt that life was dull every day. He doesn't want to associate with others and always goes his own way. The teacher was lecturing on the platform, but he was thinking rebelliously: what does the circuit and solenoid have to do with me? When I was a freshman, I had to skip classes every day, learn to play guitar, make movies with my classmates outside school, earn tuition, play band and take many classes. Finally, I couldn't take the final exam, so I had to apply to the school for a year's suspension. during his suspension from school, he was called the "best time" of his life. He wandered in many cities, worked as a construction Porter, cleaned the sewers of hotels, sold cold drinks on the street for several months, and opened a photo booth by a beautiful lake until he returned to school. This wandering career had an important influence on his life. after returning to school, the most important thing for Guan Dai is his first love. Like all college love, the feelings at that time were most sincere, pure and beautiful. Love let him out of autism, slowly calm down, no longer rebellious. when graduating from University, the unified distribution was implemented, and the management was assigned to a power plant. The first love girl was assigned to another distant city. At that time, although the salary was very low, Guan Dai would visit her every month. This situation only lasted for half a year. The girl bowed to the reality and proposed to break up. This is a heavy blow to Guan Dai. A few months later, he suddenly resigned. At that time, working as a technician in a power plant was a good job that many people dreamed of. His resignation caused quite a stir in the local area. His parents were so angry that they told him not to go back home, but he left resolutely. "Maybe it's just that I don't want to be bound by nature, and I don't like to work step by step, so I want to leave." Don't worry about that. From then on, I began to wander. From north to south, I worked as an advertising salesman, sold duty-free cars, and drove paging stations. Like most young people, she has experienced a lot of failures and achieved some successes. Later, she earned money and went back to find her first girlfriend. She has married someone else.

Guan Dai's daze and writing

It's my friends who give me the name. His girlfriends complained that he didn't like to talk and was always in a daze. Guan Dai defended himself: "I just like to be quiet, like to be alone, reading and watching alone." It happens that the bar is a noisy environment. "Because I always have my favorite music in my ear, so everything else can be used as the background." every night, the bar closes and the last one leaves. He drove slowly along the Zhongshan Mausoleum, or drove out of the city, had a violent ride in the suburbs, and then went home to sleep. during the day, they usually write or read by the lake. He has many strange friends. Guan Dai, the old man who is watching the fish pond by the side of Zhongshan Mausoleum lake, often stays with him for an afternoon. Guan Dai says that he likes to stay with him. Maybe they chat, maybe they don't talk at all. and the old woman who sells tofu, with two braids, is very cute. the neighbor's little girl who has just been admitted to junior high school and often sits on the steps late thinking. travelers on the journey. "I like people who look lonely, because I am the same person." Because I like it, I treat it well, but not all kinds of kindness will respond to it. Guan Dai tells a story of moving house with a smile. "On the day of moving, I want to say goodbye to my neighbor's little sister. Knock on her door. It's her mother who opens it. Hand her a big teddy bear and politely ask for the little girl. The woman looked at the bear and at me, and said something I will never forget: at such an old age, do you still hook up with a little girl? Are you still human? Then he threw the bear to me and slammed the door shut Almost hit my nose. " If you don't understand, Guan Dai doesn't care. In his heart, he deliberately keeps a distance from the world to avoid harm. The colleagues in the bar all laughed when they talked about him. "I feel that he is a person with melancholy, vicissitudes and other connotations. We've never seen him during the day, only at night. " Guan Dai doesn't like people saying that he is the owner of a bar. He says that the bar is only one of his interests, and there are many more. During this period, a communication company hired him to be the general manager, offered him a high annual salary, and allocated him a white BMW 730. But after less than half a year, he resigned again. He still likes to live a free and leisurely life, and for this reason, he stubbornly refuses to compromise. years of life in the bar, he learned to observe, all kinds of people, all kinds of lifestyles, and recorded them one by one. He was rated as one of the top ten writers in Xici. in September 2006,

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