How to overcome suspicion(ru he ke fu cai yi xin li )

People with suspicion tend to look at each other and external things with distrust. Whenever they see what others are talking about, they think that others are speaking ill of themselves. People who are obsessed with jealousy tend to catch the wind and make trouble out of it. The result is that they will only seek trouble for themselves and harm others and themselves.

How to overcome suspicion?

(1) Cultivate self-confidence: everyone should see their own strengths, cultivate self-confidence, believe that they will deal with interpersonal relationships with the surrounding, will leave a good impression on others. In this way, when we work and live confidently, we don't have to worry about our own behavior, and we don't doubt whether others will find fault with us.

(2) Learn to comfort yourself: there is nothing to make a fuss about when a person is criticized and rumored by others and misunderstood by others in his life. In some details of life do not have to haggle over, can be confused, so you can avoid their troubles. If you feel that others doubt you, you should comfort yourself that you don't have to be entangled by other people's gossip and don't care about other people's comments. In this way, you can not only free yourself, but also achieve a small spiritual victory, and the doubts will naturally disappear.

(3) Restrain the occurrence of impulsive emotion with rational power: when you find that you begin to doubt others, you should immediately find out the reasons for the doubt, and introduce positive and negative information before forming thinking. For example, if the farmer in "suspecting others for stealing axes" thinks calmly after losing his axe whether he forgot to take it home when he cut firewood, or fell on the road when he picked firewood, then the suspicion that almost affected his relationship with his neighbors may not arise at all. In real life, it is ridiculous to expose many suspicions. But before exposing, because the mind of the suspect is dominated by closed thinking, he will feel his suspicions are reasonable. At this time, calm thinking is obviously very necessary.

(4) Timely communication and dispelling doubts: there are no people in the world who are not misunderstood. The key is that we should have the ability and methods to eliminate misunderstandings. If the misunderstanding can not be solved as soon as possible, it will develop into suspicion; if the suspicion can not be solved in time, it may lead to misfortune. So if possible, it's better to have a frank talk with your "suspect" so as to find out the truth and remove the misunderstanding. It is very important for the suspect to think calmly after he is suspicious, but if the doubt still exists after he is calm, he should have a heart to heart conversation with the suspect in an appropriate way. If there are misunderstandings, they can be eliminated in time; if there are different views, it is also very beneficial to understand each other's thoughts through heart to heart talks; if it is really proved that suspicion is not groundless, then it is possible to settle the matter before the conflict by discussing it calmly.

Chinese PinYin : Ru He Ke Fu Cai Yi Xin Li