at the death of one 's father or mother
The Chinese idiom, Pinyin, is Q ì Xu è Q ǐ s ǎ ng, which means that the guests who have been mourning with great pain cry and pay homage, and even thank them. It's from "rites of rites, funeral rites of the soldiers.".
Idiom usage
Although the obituary said "sleeping on the pillow" and "weeping with blood", they hid in the curtain all day and didn't need to cry or come out to answer. Home by Ba Jin
The origin of Idioms
"Rites and funerals of scholars" says: "when the master cries and worships, he becomes enthusiastic."
Chinese PinYin : qì xuè jī sǎng
at the death of one 's father or mother
The east wind blows on the ear. dōng fēng chuī mǎ ěr
introduce comic remarks in dialogue. sā kē dǎ hùn
lose one's virtue in old age. wǎn jié bù zhōng