Comity in contradiction(zai mao dun zhong neng li rang )

In interpersonal communication, contradictions are inevitable. In the face of contradictions, if you insist on going your own way and don't try to solve them, you have to rely on your own opinions, which will inevitably intensify the contradictions. Those who are good at adjusting their communication strategies in communication will make every effort to weaken the contradictions. It is not difficult to weaken contradictions. The fundamental principle is comity. China is a country that pays great attention to comity, and has an excellent tradition of comity. In fact, once there is a disagreement or conflict in communication, as long as one party is courteous, most of the problems can be solved. To be able to be courteous in time of conflict is not a kind of retreat, but an adjustment of strategy in a special communication environment. It can be seen that comity, in fact, is to find the intersection in the conflict; with this intersection, both sides of the contradiction will be able to accept it, so that the contradiction will be eased. The so-called doctrine of the mean in ancient China actually taught people to learn self-regulation in interpersonal communication. If we can be more moderate, we will give way to politeness first. If you can be courteous, even if there are contradictions, they will be resolved by compromise. It can be seen that comity, as a kind of communicative regulation, plays an important role in communication.

Chinese PinYin : Zai Mao Dun Zhong Neng Li Rang