How to get along with gossip(zen yang yu ban nong shi fei zhe xiang chu )

Get along with the gossip, grasp the following points:

(1) Magnanimous: it is impossible to live without being discussed. As far as the content is concerned, there are some in line with the facts and some out of line with the facts; as far as the motivation is concerned, there are some in good faith and some in bad faith. But in any case, we should be magnanimous. We should not forget ourselves when we hear good comments. We should not feel tall all of a sudden. We should not be angry or worried when we hear bad comments. Otherwise, they will lose their psychological balance, do stupid things, and fall into the mischief of the gossip.

(2) Integrity: it's immoral to talk about others behind their backs. We can't give in to them. We must stand up upright and help them correct their bad habits. The effective way to help the gossip to correct his bad habits is to respect the other party and give good advice in a friendly manner; at the same time, skillfully guide the other party to get a correct understanding of people. For example, when the other party talks about others, you can first follow the voice of the other party, talk about the shortcomings of the person, and then talk about his strengths, so as to form a correct conclusion.

(3) Keep your mouth shut: when you get along with a gossip, don't say anything that involves the right and wrong of others, don't say anything that concerns your own interests, and don't leave a "vinegar making" handle and ingredients for those who sow dissension, so that they have nowhere to start.

On the premise of mastering the above three principles, we should also pay attention to the application of the following skills:

(1) Talk about work, don't talk about relationship: talk more about positive work, less about negative work, or you may have a working cooperative relationship with this person. This is also a good topic. Talk about the progress and methods of work, and don't involve any interpersonal relationship.

(2) Only talk about big things, not small things: the so-called big things here can be national events or world events, which are not related to the interpersonal and personnel relations of the unit, and the other party can not find the object to gossip.

If the other side's bad habit of gossiping has become a character trait, then simply ignore it. "Go your own way and let others talk about it." Don't go to the man to confront him as soon as you hear the gossip. This will embarrass everyone and will not solve the fundamental problem. Don't be impatient for a moment. It's even more embarrassing to go to that person to "settle accounts" and fight. In this way, people will equate you with him and regard you as an ignorant person.

A gentleman is honest, but a villain is always sad. Indeed, a strong man lives for his own goal; only the weak are influenced by the surrounding right and wrong.

Chinese PinYin : Zen Yang Yu Ban Nong Shi Fei Zhe Xiang Chu