Avoid falling into the wrong area of asking friends to do things(bi mian diao jin qiu peng you ban shi de wu qu )

Many people often fall into such a misunderstanding: there is no need to be polite between good friends. They think that good friends are familiar with each other, close and trusting, like brothers and brothers, share happiness, pay attention to politeness, too restrained and too outsider. But they don't realize that the maintenance of friendship is based on mutual respect and can't tolerate any coercion and control. Therefore, no matter how familiar or intimate friends are, they should not be too polite. Once tacit understanding and balance are broken, friendly relations will no longer exist.

Generally speaking, three misunderstandings should be avoided when asking friends to do business

(1) No distinction and lack of respect: what friends don't pay attention to most is the careless handling of each other's goods. They often think that "how can friends divide each other's goods". They use their friends' goods without permission and don't cherish them. Sometimes they return them late or not. Once or twice, they are not willing to criticize because they are in the way of affection. As time goes by, they will make friends think you are too presumptuous and have a defensive mentality towards you .

(2) Go back on one's words and don't keep the agreement: don't pay attention to some agreements between friends. For the activities of friends, they are always late. They readily accept the demands of friends at that time, and then change their mind halfway. These seemingly unimportant little things, in fact, are likely to have a subtle impact in the hearts of friends. Although they will not criticize you face to face, they will surely think that you are playing with your friends' friendship, playing tricks on the occasion, and being a capricious and unreliable person.

(3) When there is a need for someone, of course, a friend is the first choice. You can make a request at the door without notice, or force a friend to take part in an activity regardless of whether he is willing or not, which will make a friend feel in a dilemma. Maybe he is willing to do it on the surface, but he is not happy in his heart. He thinks you are too overbearing and unreasonable. Therefore, when you ask for something from your friends, you must inform them in advance, talk in a deliberative manner, and try to put forward your request on the premise that your friends have nothing to do or are willing to do.

Chinese PinYin : Bi Mian Diao Jin Qiu Peng You Ban Shi De Wu Qu