Don't overdraw your own human resources(ban shi bu yao tou zhi zi ji de ren qing zi yuan )

People always have feelings when they get along with others, which is "human feelings". Some people like to use "human feelings" to handle affairs, but "human feelings" are always limited. For example, the more money you deposit in a bank, the more money you can get out. The less you save, the less money you can get out. If you're just friends with other people. You can ask others to help you is very limited, because the other party has no obligation and responsibility to help you, and you can't ask them to help you again and again. If you ask too much, it's overdraft. Overdraft usually results in two results

(1) The feelings between each other turn pale, even to you to avoid less than fear, then it is possible to further develop the feelings of this break.

(2) You become a stranger in the other person's eyes.

Either way, it will be very unfavorable for people to do things, because people can't do things by themselves. Sometimes they have to use relatives and friends. In other words, they have to use the human relations deposit book. So how to use it to avoid "overdraft"?

(1) Find out how you feel about yourself and your partner, and then decide whether to ask him for help.

(2) If you don't want to ask for help, try not to ask for it, and use it on the blade.

(3) The number of times to use human feelings should be as small as possible.

(4) There should be moderate feedback, that is, "return the favor.".

There are many ways to give back. Take the initiative to help each other, invite them to dinner or give them gifts. In a word, don't take it as proper for others to help you.

(5) Even if the other party owes you, you can't ask for help from the other party.

If you don't understand these, you will find that you gradually become unpopular if you often ask your classmates and friends to help you.

Chinese PinYin : Ban Shi Bu Yao Tou Zhi Zi Ji De Ren Qing Zi Yuan