Put down one's position and not be alone(fang xia shen duan bu zuo gu jia gua ren )

People's "body" is a kind of "self-identity", which is not a bad thing, but this kind of "self-identity" is also a kind of "self closure", that is to say, "because I am this kind of person, I am different from others", and the stronger the self-identity, the more serious the self closure.

Therefore, Miss Qian Jin is not willing to eat at the same table with the nanny, the doctor is not willing to be a junior salesman, and the senior director is not willing to take the initiative to go to the junior staff They believe that if they do that, it will damage their identity.

To be a man with "figure" will make you more and more aloof and lonely.

If you want to come out of the self closed circle, you have to put down your position, that is, put down your education background, your family background and your identity, and let yourself return to "ordinary people".

In fact, everyone wants to be respected and liked by the public, but the need for self-esteem is only his own hope. Whether he can get it in fact depends on the public's evaluation and affirmation of his words, behavior and actions. If we regard the need of self-esteem as an action to guide our own behavior, there is no theoretical error. The problem is that this kind of self-esteem psychology can not be excessive. If a person lets the psychology of excessive self-esteem occupy a guiding and dominant position in social communication, he will be afraid of whether his behavior is improper, how people will treat him, and sometimes he will not associate with people better than himself because of excessive self-esteem, and he will lose his "price" and dignity. Because of excessive self-esteem, and unwilling to associate with people who are "worse" than themselves, I feel that it is beneath my status. If you think about it in this way, you will close yourself up, do not communicate with the outside world, and you will be lonely. It will be difficult for you to adapt to the modern society.

If you want to be a square person, you have to put down your position and walk out of the self closed circle. You have to overcome your own psychological barriers, correctly understand yourself, bravely face the society and others, and lead a successful life.

Chinese PinYin : Fang Xia Shen Duan Bu Zuo Gu Jia Gua Ren