value the male child only(zhòng nán qīng nǚ)

value the male child only

Preference for men over women refers to the feudal thought of attaching importance to men and belittling women. It's from the 20th book of the forest sea and snow plain: "Bai Ru's lips are full of shame and joy. She's a girl with yellow hair. She's a man of preference."

Male preference is an unequal concept between men and women in society. It attaches importance to men's rights and interests, and defines women as men's subsidiary, and limits their opportunities to develop their personal talents and personal freedom. This concept is common in patriarchal society, often accompanied by the concept of male superiority and female division of labor. The idea of son preference also affects parents' willingness to have boys and girls. For example, in ancient Chinese oracle inscriptions, giving birth to a boy is regarded as good and giving birth to a girl as bad.

Explanation of words

allusion

Qu Bo 20: "Bai Ru's lips are full of shame and joy." what kind of yellow haired girl, the idea of preferring boys over girls. "

Discrimination

Usage: as predicate, attribute, object; refers to despise women.

origin

Sociology

In the early human evolution, stronger physical strength means more food sources and more survival opportunities in tribal wars.

Economics

In the course of human evolution, there has been a set of thinking: men have the natural advantage of sociality. Because men's physical strength is better than women's, they can work better and get more return in ancient times. In the case of limited or even lack of resources, it also constitutes the economic reason for parents' preference for boys.

Life customs

In some social culture and customs will show the idea of son preference. For example, some rural areas in China stipulate that women who have not given birth to boys cannot attend weddings. In the traditional funeral rites in East Asia, the funeral service for the paternal relatives is heavier than that for the same generation and the same maternal relatives. For example, the funeral service for the uncle is heavier than that for the uncle; even for the same paternal or maternal relatives, the funeral service for the male is heavier than that for the female, for example, the funeral service for the uncle is heavier than that for the aunt.

Some languages also show the idea of son preference. For example, in Chinese, "women's opinions" refers to the opinions of people who have no knowledge, and "women's benevolence" refers to the benevolence without considering the overall situation, which means that women's intelligence is despised.

Type differentiation

Some scholars hold the view that traditional ethics, law, small-scale peasant economy and land ownership have shaped China's traditional patriarchal clan system. Under this system, mothers basically have no human rights, financial power and administrative power in the family, let alone daughters.

Under this system, sons and daughters perform four functions

1. Take care of one's old age

2. Get recognition

3. Carry on one's family

4. Emotional feedback

From the micro and family level, preference for boys can be divided into two types or two levels

1. One level is utilitarian preference for men over women, that men can bring more benefits than women.

2. Another aspect is the complex preference for boys. The two most common complex subtypes are face preference and existential preference.

An analysis of the ideological and Political Education

Many places where men are more women and some men who are more patriarchal than women, give birth to boys and neglect their burden, and continue to bear children until they have a boy. Some of them are abandoned and sent after the baby girl is born. Some places where the registered residence is not sound will be concealed or missing.

In some families with a deep sense of son preference, when their daughter was born, their father was too angry to eat. Even if the degree is average, they often think that girls don't need to read too many books to get married when they grow up. So, regardless of their children's abilities and wishes, they asked their daughters to drop out of school to work and earn money for their brothers to study. Even if their daughters got good grades and their sons didn't want to study, these parents did the same. Usually, there are different treatments for sons and daughters. For example, some delicious and fun things are given priority to sons, but daughters are required to do more housework. In extreme cases, even the son is regarded as a treasure, like a little emperor at home, while the daughter is regarded as a slave, and is often beaten and scolded.

On the other hand, when men are valued, it often means that they have to bear heavier responsibilities. Some families will discipline their sons more severely than their daughters. Either men's pressure is huge and they are regarded as money making tools; or men's brutal, no sense of moral civilization, and the country is backward, so the preference for boys is also a kind of false "freedom right" for some intelligent and moral men. Iceland, which has been rated as the happiest country and the friendliest country in the world for many times, ranks first in gender equality for six consecutive years. Among the 24 developed countries, the number of countries where gender equality prevails is overwhelming, so gender equality is more conducive to the development of modern national society.

According to Ma Leijun, a senior project officer of the UN women's office in China, with the development of market economy, gender inequality is hurting men more and more. Society imposes a lot of responsibilities on men, such as buying a house, buying a car, and making money to support their families. "It's also unfair to men. In a harmonious society, men and women should share these responsibilities," Ma said. Therefore, we emphasize that unequal gender relations not only affect the development of women, but also harm men. I hope more men, especially young people, will participate in the advocacy of gender equality. "

Wang Yan, deputy director and host of Hunan city channel, also found that under the influence of traditional fixed thinking, many people in marriage and family think that men should bear the responsibility of making money to support their families, while women don't need to bear the responsibility of supporting their families. Wang Yan said: "this makes men shoulder the burden of determining the material standard of living of the whole family. It is this kind of inequality between the sexes that makes such a family no longer a combination of love, but a combination of needs, which loses the original intention of marriage. The original intention of marriage should be to accompany and rely on each other.

change

In recent years, there are still some positive achievements in the global promotion of equal rights for men and women. In the past two years, a total of 94 reform measures to promote equal rights between men and women have been formulated in 65 developing countries.

With the process of urbanization, preference for boys has gradually withdrawn from the mainstream, but in order to completely change this idea, it is urgent to change people's social concept and correctly treat the roles, rights and obligations of men and women in society and family life.

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