friendship between generations(wàng nián jiāo)

friendship between generations

Forgetting the new year is often referred to friends who are not limited to age or seniority, but have deep friendship and similar thoughts. Most of them refer to friends who have great differences in age and profession. The source is biography of hesun.

source

Biography of He Xun in Southern History: "the character of Xun is Zhongyan. At the age of eight, he was able to write poems. He was a weak champion and a scholar in the state. Fan Yun of Nanxiang, seeing his countermeasures, greatly praised him for forgetting to make friends in the new year. "

Examples

This morning, he was looking at the clouds in the sky. When he was serious and didn't expect to lie, he suddenly met a ~. In Mao Dun's old squire, it's easy for people to forget their old age and make friends with their colleagues or superiors and subordinates. Because they are like-minded and go together, the feeling of forgetting New Year's friendship is very subtle, sometimes like father and son, sometimes like brother, the relationship is better, the relationship looks like a lover to outsiders. But it does not mean that two people have cross-border behavior, but rather trust and rely on each other's friendship. But sometimes it seems to the family and the onlookers that they will be misunderstood, which is also a manifestation of the lack of progress of civilization. With such a pair of friends, they often play sports together, discuss problems and life together, and sometimes invite each other to travel together. Both of them think that taking their wives and children is not free and easy enough, so they will travel alone, just like brothers. And this was just discovered by the family, and was mistaken for improper relationship. Under the pressure, they were forced to let go of their relationship and fly alone. Many years later, the elder was very sad when he suddenly heard that he had passed away unexpectedly. When he was older, he could not help but burst into tears when he recalled the deep friendship between them. He remembered that he had traveled all over the city to meet his wish, looking for his favorite Yunzi; he spent several months' salary for his birthday; he took himself out on a trip like a son, helped him and laughed; he also remembered that he had a good time; I remember that I knocked on his head many times and said, "smelly boy, when I am old and can't walk, I will carry on my back"; I remember that I was complacent because I found such a forgetful relationship; I also remember that they were reluctant and helpless because of the misunderstanding from their families. A month later, the old man passed away, chanting his name and resenting his wife. It's a tragedy, and it's happening all the time. Social progress and harmonious society need such warmth, the development of the times should be more inclusive, and the old ideas should be changed easily for such sincerity.

usage

What is "forgetting New Year's friendship"? Forgetting New Year's friendship refers to the contact between two or more people whose ages differ by more than 20 years. On the surface, it seems that there are obvious differences in age, background and many other aspects between the two generations (parents and children) or (grandparents and grandchildren). However, because their interests and hobbies are similar and the same, that is to say, they fall in love with each other and have their common "ideals" and ideas Happy and opportunistic, with the feeling that it's too late to know each other and not to see each other in one day, people in the same way are likely to become "friends who forget their age" complex. the so-called "forgetting to make friends" complex is that they should have common interests, break through the gap between their ages, and change the "natural moat" into a thoroughfare. "Forgetting to make friends" should be based on the "common" basis, and choose pen friends, literary friends, book friends, painting friends, fishing friends, Ma friends All kinds of appellation of friends, all kinds of things; all can bring happiness to young, old or middle-aged, young friends, promote physical and mental health of meaningful communication, should be concerned and understood by society, family and support. It's true that building a harmonious society and pursuing excellence in life are not useless for us to enhance our modern consciousness. We should forget our old age complex, lead the new with the old and the old with the young, imperceptibly influence each other, respect each other and encourage each other, so as to make the society more harmonious and the family happier!

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