marry someone with the proper ceremonies -- three lots of tea and six presents(sān chá liù lǐ)

marry someone with the proper ceremonies -- three lots of tea and six presents

Three tea and six rites is a kind of traditional etiquette in the process of marriage in ancient China. Now it is also used to refer to business, trade, cooperation and so on. Three Teas refer to the "next tea" at the time of engagement, the "fixed tea" at the time of marriage and the "combined tea" at the time of roommate. The six rites refer to the whole process of marriage from proposal to marriage, that is to say, six kinds of rites are used to establish the marriage, namely, naicai, Wenming, Naji, nazheng, Qiuqi and Qinying. The traditional marriage customs and rituals of "three tea and six rites" enable the married couple to obtain the approval of their ancestors and gods and undertake the rights and obligations to their parents and relatives. In ancient times, if men and women did not complete the process of three tea and six rites, marriage would not be recognized as a fair marriage.

Etiquette content

Three Teas

Tea ceremony is a grand ceremony in ancient Chinese wedding. Because of the ancients' understanding of the habit of tea tree, they thought that the tea tree could only sprout from the seeds and could not be transplanted, so they regarded the tea tree as a symbol of the supreme nature. Therefore, people take tea as the tea ceremony for men and women's engagement.

"Three tea ceremony" used to be popular in the Han nationality areas in the south of the Yangtze River. One is the "next tea" at the time of engagement, the "fixed tea" at the time of marriage, and the "combined tea" at the time of rooming. Another special refers to the wedding ceremony of three tea, namely the first 100 fruits; the second lotus seeds, dates; the third is tea. The way of eating is also exquisite: the first and second way is to hold the cup with both hands and make a deep bow, then touch the cup with the lips, that is, the family will take it away, and the third way is to make a bow before drinking.

the six ceremonies of betrothal and marriage

The "six rites" began in the Zhou Dynasty. It is said that King Wen of the Zhou Dynasty bode auspicious omen and welcome Tai Si personally in Weibin. There are six rites in the whole process, namely: accept and collect, ask for name, accept auspicious omen, accept and collect, invite and welcome. Later, the ceremony will be designated as "six rites".

"Naicai" means that a man asks a matchmaker to go to the woman's house to propose marriage. If the woman discusses marriage with her, the man will go to the woman's house to propose marriage again. The gift he carries is usually a live goose. "When the gift is faint, the man adopts a wild goose." Before the Zhou Dynasty, because of different status, the gifts were different. Later, they were all changed to wild geese. The reason of using wild geese is that the wild geese "Mu Luo Nan Xiang, Bing Feng Bei group", which is in accordance with the exchange of yin and Yang; the second reason is that the wild geese lost their spouse, no longer become a pair, and take their loyalty.

"Asking for a bride's name" is a ceremony for a man to ask a matchmaker for her name and date of birth. After asking the name, the man arranges the eight characters of the birth date of both men and women into yin and Yang, so as to decide whether the marriage is good or bad. If the eight characters match, the man can get married.

"Naji" is the man's first name after the divination of the auspicious omen can marry the news to tell the woman, prepare a gift to the woman to decide the engagement. This is the main etiquette of engagement. In the past, geese were used as gifts for marriage, and they entered the stage of "small engagement", commonly known as "sending, over engagement, and engagement". Later, gifts gradually evolved from wild geese into rings, jewelry, colored silk, gift cakes, gift candles and so on.

"Accepting the bride price" is the etiquette of sending the bride price to the woman's home after the marriage is concluded between the man and the woman, which is very cumbersome. After receiving the gift, the woman should return the gift, or return part of the food in the bride price, or send the clothes, shoes and socks prepared by the woman to the man. Most of the items in the betrothal gifts are auspicious, and the number is double taboo. Later, it was said that "if you want to get fat, you can't leave eight." that's where it comes from.

"Asking for a date" is commonly known as "raising the date" and "sending the sun" and so on. It is a ceremony for a man to choose the wedding date after the bride price and go to the woman's house for advice. This etiquette is more simple, in the "levy" at the same time determine the date of marriage.

"Pro Ying" is a wedding ceremony for the bride. The etiquette is very complicated and there are many styles. There are different customs in different places. It is the whole process of entering the room from the outside. There are many kinds of procedures in the Han area, such as welcoming the sedan chair, getting off the sedan chair, worshiping the heaven and the earth, carrying out the wedding ceremony, entering the bridal chamber and so on.

historical origin

History follows

In the first three years of emperor Hanping's reign, Liu Xin and other officials had a wedding ceremony. The family members of the four Fu Gongqing officials could welcome him personally, and the empress also accepted the wedding ceremony. During the Wei, Jin and southern and Northern Dynasties, the wedding ceremony of the crown prince to the crown princess was not invited. From the Eastern Han Dynasty to the Eastern Jin Dynasty, many times they did not marry according to the six rites.

After the Tang Dynasty, the crown prince began to welcome, and the prince's wedding would follow the six rites. In fact, there are only four Rites: nacai, Naji, nazheng and Qinying. Zhu's family ceremony combined Naji and nazheng into one ceremony, so there were only three.

In the Yuan Dynasty, more than one wedding ceremony was added to the wedding ceremony.

In the first year of Hongwu in Ming Dynasty, the wedding ceremony was made according to Zhuzi's family etiquette.

In the Qing Dynasty, according to the records of general rites, there were nine rites for Han officials from seven grades or above, but they were all spelled into the rites of becoming a wife and a son-in-law. In ancient times, only five rites were left in the six rites, namely, the rites of marriage negotiation, the rites of acceptance, the rites of currency acceptance, the rites of invitation to date and the rites of invitation to welcome. The marriage of other scholars and common people is relatively simple, and the folk wedding is generally carried out according to Zhu Zi's family law.

Historical records

Chinese traditional marriage custom has a long history, which can be traced back to the Western Zhou Dynasty. The "six rites of marriage" in the Western Zhou Dynasty had an important influence on the form of marriage in the subsequent dynasties.

Both the book of rites and the book of rites have discussed this. According to the book of Rites: "those who are in a coma of rites will be in good company with their two surnames. They will go up to serve the ancestral temple and down to follow the later generations. Therefore, men attach great importance to the rites. They will accept the rites, ask for the name, accept the auspiciousness, accept the levy, and ask for the date. All the masters will go out of the door and bow to the temple. They will obey the orders of the temple. They will bow to the door and bow to the temple Respect, prudence and integrity, and then father and son have relatives, father and son have relatives, and then monarchs and ministers have integrity, so it is said that those who are confused with propriety are also the foundation of propriety. " In addition, according to Yili, there are six rites in Hun, namely, naicai, Wenming, Naji, nazheng, Qiuqi and Qinying.

It is said that the six rites were founded in the Zhou Dynasty. Some scholars believe that there were six rites in the reign of King Wen of Zhou, but some people did not follow them.

Common gifts

There are 30 kinds of gifts recorded in Tong Dian by Tang du you

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