the words of a match-maker(méi shuò zhī yán)

the words of a match-maker

Matchmaker introduction is a common way of mate selection in the period of monogamous marriage in human society. It is not only a common way of mate selection in the history of various nationalities, but also widely popular in the marriage customs of many nationalities in the world. Media, interpretation is the meaning of media, in ancient China, media contains the meaning of strategy. The so-called "matchmaker" and "matchmaker" refer specifically to the person or thing who conspires to make a family of two surnames into a family of children and women. Matchmaker gradually becomes the pronoun of the person who introduces the marriage relationship between men and women.

essential information

Idiom Name: words of matchmaker idiom pronunciation: m é ishu ò zh ī y á n idiom interpretation: matchmaker: a person who says he is married. Introduction of matchmaker. The source of the idiom: "don't wait for your parents' orders, the words of the matchmaker, drill holes to see each other, and follow each other beyond the wall, then your parents and countrymen are cheap."

Extended interpretation

The matchmaker of our country appeared very early in the Zhou Dynasty more than 2000 years ago. The so-called ancient sayings and sayings, such as "men and women have no matchmaker, do not ask each other's names", "men and women have no matchmaker, do not make friends", "women have no matchmaker, do not marry", "there is no cloud in the sky, no rain, no matchmaker on the ground, do not marry", have been handed down from that era. However, the phenomenon of choosing marriage partners through matchmaker introduction is not only limited to China, but also a very common way in many nationalities in the world. the way of matchmaker's introduction in many ethnic groups in Asia, spouse selection is often achieved through matchmaker's introduction. There are usually two ways to introduce a matchmaker: one is that one's parents first meet a girl or a young man, and then ask the matchmaker to go to have a marriage talk; the other is that the matchmaker takes the initiative to ask both men and women to conclude a marriage, that is to say, the way of choosing a mate is always based on the matchmaker's initiative, and these people are often full-time matchmakers. foreign introductions Cambodian matchmakers Cambodian spouse selection is mainly based on matchmaker introductions, and this way of spouse selection is quite representative among all ethnic groups in eastern Asia. Cambodians usually start to think about their son's marriage when a young man is about 14 years old. If they have a crush on a girl, they will first try to get the eight characters of the girl's birthday (the year, month, day and hour when she was born), and then ask the fortune teller to calculate whether the eight characters match her son's birthday. If it doesn't match, that is to say, the two sides are antagonistic to each other, then the matter will come to an end; if it matches, it means that the two sides can get married, then the young man's parents will ask the matchmaker to go to propose marriage. The choice of matchmaker is also quite particular. It requires that the matchmaker must be a woman whose husband is alive, whose children are in groups, whose life is good and who knows her better. The matchmaker should go to the girl's house at least three times before the marriage is confirmed. When the matchmaker goes to the girl's home for the first time, he will bring a bag of betel nuts, basket leaves and cigarettes as gifts to the girl's parents. However, when the matchmaker went to the girl's home for the first time, he did not directly propose marriage to the girl's parents. Instead, he told the girl's parents that the young man's parents would come to the girl's home to ask if it was convenient for the girl's parents. Generally speaking, a girl's parents will understand what the matchmaker says. If the girl's parents are interested in the marriage, they will agree. The second time the matchmaker went to the girl's house, he brought the same gift as the first time, but the content of the conversation was further deepened. Although the matchmaker has not directly talked about the marriage, he often says that the young man's parents know that the girl's family has a few acres of good land, want to give the girl a good seed, and hope that the girl's land will take root and blossom and bear fruit. In fact, they are implicitly proposing the marriage to the girl's parents. If a girl's parents say that they will wait a few days to see the weather, it often means that the girl's parents are interested in the marriage, and then the girl's parents begin to inquire about the young man's appearance, character and family situation. after a period of time, the matchmaker will come to the girl's home for the third time and explicitly ask her parents to make a statement. If the girl's parents agree, the two sides have to exchange the "Geng tie" to write the eight characters of her birthday, and then the marriage is finally settled. The Cambodian way of spouse selection can be seen frequently in the spouse selection customs of many Asian ethnic groups deeply influenced by Confucian culture, especially in the aspect of whether men and women are compatible. The most important thing is that in the process of mate selection, these ethnic groups attach great importance to whether the eight characters of the birth date of both men and women are consistent, and the role of matchmaker can be compared with that of parents in marriage. matchmaker in Syria in Syria, although matchmakers also introduce the way of choosing a mate, the form is strange. In some parts of Syria, there is a popular custom known as "knocking on the door to ask for marriage.". When the son of the family reaches the age of marriage, the young man's father invites an old woman to act as a matchmaker. The strange thing is that her duty is not to go to the young man's parents or the girl's house where the young man likes to marry, but to knock on the door and ask if there is a girl to marry. If the answer is yes, the old woman will come in and wait, but she can't ask about the girl. Instead, she will judge the girl's condition through her own observation. Generally speaking, when there are guests at home, they always have to be entertained. The old woman is the girl who brings coffee to entertain the guests. She looks at the girl carefully and does not ask her age. Instead, she relies on her own judgment to infer the girl's age from the girl's appearance and other aspects. Then she goes back to the young man's home and tells the young man's parents about the girl No one has ever known the words of the matchmaker and the order of their parents. This is a marriage led by a thread. They pass each other and love each other. They hold hands together and go far together. This is a warm story. In ancient times, thousands of years ago, the moon shone on the earth. (a novel about a man giving birth to a son in the United States) the author's words: this story actually originated from a chat. Suddenly, I wanted to write a story about giving birth to a son, so I started writing without any plot. even the names are borrowed. I don't know if you've ever played world two. Qingchui, junshao is actually the name of the game NPC (*^__ ^*(hee hee I always feel that the reason why ancient prose is ancient prose is not only the pride of fighting in the world, but also the most simple and simple feelings and romance. I hope this story can bring warmth and warm love to everyone. if someone feels it, this is Su's greatest happiness.

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