Don't do to others what you don't want(jǐ suǒ bù yù，wù shī yú rén)

Don't do to others what you don't want

Don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself is a Chinese word, which means that you don't like it, and don't impose it on others yourself. From the Analects of Confucius - Chapter 12 of Yanyuan.

Synonymous sentence

I don't want to be imposed on me by others. I also want to be imposed on others.

Quotation of Analects

In the fifteenth chapter of Wei linggong, Zi Gong asked, "is there a word that can be used for life?" Confucius said, "I'm sorry! Don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself. " In the fifth chapter of gongyechang, Zi Gong said, "I don't want to be imposed by others, but I also want to be imposed by others." Confucius said, "giving is beyond your reach." In Yan Yuan No. 12, Zhong Gong asked Ren. Confucius said, "going out is like meeting a great guest, and making people like bearing a great sacrifice. Don't do to others what you don't want. There is no resentment in the country, and there is no resentment at home. " Zhong Gong said, "although Yong is not sensitive, please do this."

meaning

This sentence is similar to Laozi's "rule by inaction", which is probably "forgive". If you don't like it, don't worry about it.

Extension

Don't impose on others what you don't want to bear. "Don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself" is the earliest principle of Zhou rites, which is highly praised by Confucius, the founder of Confucianism. That is to say, when you ask others to do something, first of all, you are willing to do it yourself, or if you do it yourself, then you will feel at ease with your request; the popular understanding is that if you can't do it yourself, you can't ask others to do it. What this sentence reveals is the important principle of dealing with interpersonal relationship. Confucius said that people should treat others with their own behavior as a reference. People should have a broad mind, when dealing with people, do not be narrow-minded, but should be magnanimous, forgive others. If you force others what you don't want, it will not only destroy the relationship with others, but also make things stand still and out of control. This principle should be adhered to in interpersonal communication, which is the embodiment of respecting others and treating others equally. In the world, we should not only pay attention to our own existence, but also pay attention to the existence of others. People are equal. Don't do what you don't want to do to others.

Source of the original text

Zhong Gong asked Ren. Confucius said: "going out is like meeting a great guest, making the people like bearing a great sacrifice (1); don't do to others what you don't want; there is no resentment in the country, and there is no resentment at home." Zhong Gong said, "although Yong is not sensitive, please do this." ——Yan Yuan, the Analects of Confucius, says that there is a kind of Dharma for good men, and the Bodhisattva mahasa is often the guardian. What a way? Don't persuade others what you don't want. If it is a Dharma, the Bodhisattva mahasa should always guard it. ——Mahayana shines all over Guangming and hides Wuzi Famen Sutra

word meaning

Its: probably, maybe. Forgiveness: refers to the Confucian concept of treating others with benevolence. Want to: want to, want to do. No: No. Shi: exert. Yu: preposition, in. Person: This is interpreted as the other party, opposite to "Ji" in the front of the original text.

english

（1）：Doasyouwouldbedonebyothersby. （2）：Donotdotootherswhatyouwouldnotwantthemtodotoyou. （3）：Donotdotootherswhatyouwouldnotliketodo. （4）：Treatothersasyouwanttobetreated.

Other sources

Analects of Confucius Analects of Confucius: a collection of quotations in the spring and Autumn period of China, which mainly records the words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples. It reflects the thoughts of Confucius. It was compiled by Confucius' disciples and his disciples. There are 20 chapters and 492 chapters in the book, which is the first "quotation style". In the Southern Song Dynasty, Zhu Xi called it "four books" together with Mencius, Daxue and Zhongyong. Confucius, the founder of Confucianism, advocated benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and faith. As a collection of words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples, the Analects of Confucius has a wide range of contents, mostly related to the problems of human social life, and had a significant impact on the psychological quality and moral behavior of the Han nationality. It is a classic work of the Confucian school. Until the modern new culture movement, about two thousand years of history, the Analects has been a must read book for Chinese beginners. As an excellent collection of quotation prose, it describes Confucius' remarks in implicit and meaningful language. Confucius' instructive words recorded in the Analects of Confucius are either simple responses, or enlightening arguments, and eloquent; full of changes, and moving. And the Analects of Confucius taught later generations how to behave. The Yellow Emperor's Yin Fu Jing, the Analects of Confucius, the book of changes and the Tao Te Jing are several source classics of the Chinese nation. They are not only the important carriers of morality and culture, but also the wisdom crystallization of ancient sages after cultivating morality, realizing Tao and the unity of heaven and man.

Examples of usage

If you don't know the same thing, there is no resentment in the humble people. If you look at the enemy in the princess, you may not be forgiven. (Chapter 140 of Xia Jingqu's exposed words of a wild old man in Qing Dynasty)

About the author

Confucius (September 28, 551 B.C. - February 11, 479 B.C.) was born in the state of Lu in the spring and Autumn period. Confucius is a great thinker and educator in ancient China, the founder of Confucian school, and one of the most famous cultural celebrities in the world. He compiled the first annalistic history book spring and autumn. According to relevant records, Confucius was born in Changping Township, Zou city of the state of Lu (Luyuan village, Nanxin Town, Southeast of Qufu City, Shandong Province); when Confucius died, he was 73 years old and was buried in Surabaya, north of Qufu City, where today's Confucius forest is located. Confucius' Thoughts on words and deeds are mainly recorded in the Analects of Confucius, a collection of quotations, and the historical records Confucius family preserved in the pre Qin and Qin and Han Dynasties. After his death, Confucius' quotations and dialogues were mainly compiled by his disciples and his disciples, which recorded the words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples, and embodied his political ideas, theoretical thoughts, moral concepts and educational principles.

Idiom story

During the spring and Autumn period, Confucius' student Zhong Gong asked Confucius how to behave in accordance with the principle of benevolence. Confucius immediately replied: "a person should treat people seriously, do not impose things he does not like on others, and do not complain whether he is in court or in opposition." Zhong Gong said with thanks, "I am slow, but I must remember what you said."

Philosophical reflection

For a proposition, we should make a comprehensive analysis, rather than just from one-sided bias. "Don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself" doesn't logically mean "do to others what you want to do to yourself." It can be seen from logic that the original proposition is true and the converse proposition of this proposition is true at the same time, but "do to others what you want" is the negation proposition of "do not do to others what you don't want", and the negation proposition is not necessarily true. What you don't want, you just can't impose it on others, but if the other party wants, it doesn't belong to the scope of "giving". What you want is not what others want, so you can't impose it on others. Generally speaking, no matter what you want or not, you can't "give", that is, impose things on others. There is only one standard, that is, take others' will as the standard. It depends on whether others are willing or not, not on our standards.

Chinese PinYin : jǐ suǒ bù yù，wù shī yú rén