Treat people sincerely, not hypocritical(cheng ken dai ren bu xu wei zuo zuo )

Treating others sincerely can be summed up in two aspects: treating others' merits and achievements sincerely and treating others' shortcomings and faults kindly.

We should sincerely feel happy and praise the merits, strengths and achievements of others. Sincere praise is a kind of encouragement and a concrete expression of concern. It can not only satisfy people's respect needs, but also further stimulate their achievement needs. Praise should be to the point, encouragement should be sincere, not insincere flattery, nor hypocritical social intercourse. Flattery and hypocritical social intercourse will damage the normal interpersonal relationship. It is true that some people in society like other people's flattery, but most people can distinguish the sincerity in other people's words. Only moderate praise and sincere encouragement can deepen the feelings of both sides.

Pointing out the shortcomings of others in good faith is another aspect of being sincere.

As the saying goes, "honest advice is against the ear". Criticism is originally against the ear. If it is not kind and sincere, it will become hurtful and hard to accept. When criticizing others, we should grasp two points: one is to seek truth from facts, the other is to pay attention to ways and methods. To seek truth from facts, it is necessary to understand the situation of the parties and the causes of the mistakes, otherwise, the parties will feel aggrieved and difficult to accept. People are not saints, who can do nothing wrong. It is inevitable to make mistakes. Most people make mistakes because they have to or because of objective reasons. Therefore, when criticizing, we should first understand the attitude of the parties and the causes of the mistakes. When the whole situation is clear, we may find that the whole course of action of the parties is not nothing. Many of them may be right. If the criticism is only based on its appearance, it will hurt the self-esteem of the criticized and encourage their defensive tendency. Then, even if we are right, he will turn a deaf ear.

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