Don't be a layman(bu yao shuo wai hang hua )

Praising others is recognition and affirmation of others. Therefore, when praising, we should not use the jargon, but carefully choose the angle of praise, and don't pretend to understand it without knowing it.

There was a young man who didn't know poetry, but by chance, he met a poet. The young man took the opportunity to compliment him and said, "your poem can't be better. I've read it several times, but I can't understand it."

Young people only know what it is, but they don't know why it is. This poet's poetry is good, but what is good about it? When young people speak layman's words and describe them as incomprehensible, they are blaspheming the works of poets.

If you don't want to be a layman, you should pay attention to the following when praising:

(1) Enough is enough: some compliments make the other party very satisfied, in order to show their appreciation function, and praise too much, often show their feet, but let the other party feel bad. Therefore, be modest in your heart. When praising others, you should keep what you want. Don't try to be fat or expert.

(2) Praise experts can use fuzzy language: experts know more than you, there is no need to praise in detail. For example, to praise calligraphers for their good handwriting, you can say, "your handwriting is so good. When can you give me some advice?" In this way, there's no need to say what's good about his handwriting.

(3) Compare things you are familiar with.

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