Don't rush to expand your contacts(tuo zhan ren mo bu ke cao zhi guo ji )

It is an inevitable behavior in the vanity fair to expand contacts, but in the society, there are some rules that must be paid attention to in order to achieve the desired effect, rather than self defeating.

This rule is "once born, twice half cooked, three fully cooked", rather than "once born, twice cooked". "Once born, twice cooked" is too fast, while "once born, twice half cooked, only three fully cooked" is gradual, long-term and unconscious. The reasons for this are as follows:

One is that everyone is wary, which is a natural reaction.

Once you've been born, you'll be "familiar" in the second time. The other party's attitude to you is absolutely "closing the door" in self-defense. They even think that you have bad intentions, so they refuse to approach you, especially celebrities, rich or powerful people.

Second, everyone has a "self". If you are born again, you will be "familiar" again. You will take a positive attitude to get close to each other as soon as possible. Perhaps the other party will soon feel your enthusiasm and give you a warm response, but most people will feel oppressed because they are not ready to be "familiar" with you. They just deal with you in pain. They may refuse to meet you for the third time.

The disadvantages of "once born, twice cooked" are more than the two points mentioned above. Because you are eager to get close to each other, it's easy to take yourself as the topic without knowing each other, so as to keep the heat of conversation between two people. This is undoubtedly exposing yourself. If the other person is not kind, don't you fall into the trap?

To survive and develop in modern society, it is necessary to expand interpersonal relationships and accumulate contacts, but it takes time for friends to communicate with each other. If they are too anxious, they will only cause each other's disgust. Therefore, the establishment of relationships should also be gradual, step by step contact, so that the expanded contacts are stable.

Chinese PinYin : Tuo Zhan Ren Mo Bu Ke Cao Zhi Guo Ji