Why do you have to be the boss(he bi fei yao dang lao da )

Many people always strive to be the "boss" of everything. When they are in the limelight, they suffer a lot. Calm down and think about it. Why do you have to fight for the "eldest" to break the blood? Sometimes you can be the "second" back. In fact, it's not impossible.

Xiao He was an important counselor of Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of Han Dynasty. After Liu Bang entered the Guanzhong area, Xiao He had a great popularity in the administration and registered residence management. At that time, the people in Guanzhong only knew Xiao He and did not know Liu Bang. One of Xiao He's disciples reminded him: "you are going to be exterminated soon. You occupy a high position and have the highest credit. You are a great minister. You can no longer get the favor of the emperor. But since you entered Guanzhong, you have won the support of the people and won the hearts of the people. Now your prestige has surpassed the emperor. I don't think he will sit back and ignore you. "

Soon after, the southern minorities started to fight against the Han Dynasty. Liu Bang led his army to fight against the Han Dynasty. After he stayed in LV, he and Xiao He stayed in Guanzhong. Xiao He seized the opportunity to seize civilian land and beautiful houses, and forcibly took other people's wives and daughters as maidservants and concubines. When Gaozu returned to the court in triumph, the common people blocked the way and accused Xiao He. Gaozu was so happy that he scolded Xiao He on the surface and said, "you can deal with it yourself." From then on, he was no longer worried about Xiao He's "conspiracy".

In Liu Bang's view, Xiao He, who was once brilliant, was just a greedy and lustful villain. It's no wonder that Liu Bang would let go of his heart to see how such a person could compete with Liu Bang for the world. Xiao He created several weaknesses for himself. He regarded himself as a "second child" and successfully saved the safety of his family.

As a person, especially as a talented person, we should not show our talents and be willing to stay in the second place. We can not only effectively protect ourselves, but also give full play to our talents.

In short, we should be flexible and know what is "smart" and "stupid". Putting yourself in the position of "boss" by force will only be annoying in the end. Let yourself fall from "boss" to "third" and "Fourth" To be an imperfect "second child" with peace of mind is not only a way of life, but also a kind of wisdom.

Chinese PinYin : He Bi Fei Yao Dang Lao Da