Clever suggestion is better than face-to-face accusation(qiao miao an shi yuan sheng dang mian zhi ze )

Many things in life have complicated causes, so it is more complicated to do them. Many times we know that truth is on our side, but it doesn't mean that we can do things with reason.

Mobil is a university teacher. One of his students blocked the entrance of a college because of illegal parking. He rushed into the classroom and asked in a very fierce tone, "whose car blocked the driveway?" When the car owner answered, the teacher yelled: "you drive away immediately, or I'll tie your car on the chain and drag it away."

The student was wrong. The car shouldn't be parked there. But from then on, not only the student was angry at Mobil's behavior, but the whole class tried to do something to cause him inconvenience and make his work more unpleasant.

He could have dealt with it in a completely different way. If he were friendly: "whose car is in the driveway?" And suggested, "if you drive it away, other cars can get in and out." The student will be happy to drive it away, and he and his classmates will not be so angry.

In the process of doing things, even if we are right and others are absolutely wrong, we will ruin everything because we let others lose face. The legendary French flying pioneer and writer Antoine de San sujoy wrote: "I have no right to do or say anything to belittle one's self-esteem. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. It's a crime to hurt the self-esteem of others. " This way of doing things makes it easy for people to correct their mistakes, maintains their self-esteem, and makes them think that they are very important. It makes them hope to cooperate with you to do things well instead of resisting or resisting.

Chinese PinYin : Qiao Miao An Shi Yuan Sheng Dang Mian Zhi Ze