Be good at getting close to others(qiu ren ban shi yao shan yu yu ren tao jin hu )

If we can't establish a close relationship with people first, it will be more difficult to ask people to do things. What are the ways to get close?

(1) Know each other's interests: before the first meeting, if you can know each other's interests in advance, you can shorten the distance between the two sides, and deepen the favor to each other. Even if you don't know much about people, you can also talk about news, books and other topics, so as to leave a deep impression on each other in a short time.

(2) Avoid negating each other: the first meeting is an important period to establish a good interpersonal relationship, rashly negating each other's words and deeds, easy to make the other party have antipathy. Of course, it's not that it's not allowed to put forward contrary opinions, but it should be avoided to put forward them face to face as far as possible. We can borrow the opinions of ordinary people and the opinions of a third party who was not present at that time, so as not to cause the other Party's confrontational refutation.

(3) Understanding each other's expectations: psychologists have found that in interpersonal communication, people very much hope that other people's evaluation of themselves is good, such as fat people want to look thinner, old people want to look younger, eager to promote people look forward to the realization of the day, and so on.

(4) Guide the other party to talk about complacency: everyone has complacency. However, no matter how complacent or arrogant he is, he will not be interested in talking about it without other people's inquiry. Therefore, if you can put forward some questions properly and make the other party talk freely, your relationship with the other party will be harmonious.

(5) Support each other with laughter: be a loyal listener and respond to emotions timely, which can help the other party eliminate strangeness and tension. Even if the other party's jokes are not funny, they should be supported by laughter, because both sides laugh at the same time, creating an atmosphere of close friends.

(6) Find out what they have in common with each other: everyone has such a psychological characteristic. For example, people from the same hometown or the same alma mater are often unconsciously connected with each other because of the consciousness of companionship and ethnicity. This is why the association of fellow townsmen and alumni came into being. If it is female, it often resonates because of the same blood type and hobbies.

(7) Call each other's name directly: we are used to calling each other's names only when we are close to each other. Calling each other by name and surname means that you don't want to be too close to others. Therefore, calling each other by name can shorten the psychological distance and achieve unexpected results.

Chinese PinYin : Qiu Ren Ban Shi Yao Shan Yu Yu Ren Tao Jin Hu