Be flexible in handling affairs(ban shi lian pi yao you dan xing )

The first thing to do is face. If you are too thick skinned to force others, it is difficult to do things; if you are too thin skinned to speak, it is even more impossible to do things.

The correct principle is to proceed from the actual needs

Keep the skin elastic.

(1) Make your face as thick as a city wall

To keep the face "elastic", the premise is to make the face thicker and harder. If it is not thick or hard, "elastic" will have no material basis. Become "as thick as a wall.". At first, his face was like a piece of paper, which was as thick as a city wall.

(2) Make face as hard as steel

Although the wall is thick, it is still possible to break it with artillery. At this point, no matter how you attack, it doesn't move at all.

(3) Let the face become "invisible and colorless", that is, people often say "no face, no skin"

The highest level of the "elasticity" of the face is this kind of "extremely thick and invisible". Not only are they "not ashamed but proud" of what they have done, but all people in the world are not ashamed of their thickness. This realm is not easy to achieve, so we have to seek it among the great sages and sages.

Only when people who study Buddhism come to the state that "Bodhi is not a tree, and the mirror is not a platform" can they achieve the right result. In order to maintain the "flexibility" of face, we must try our best to be "invisible and colorless" before we can be regarded as the best.

Chinese PinYin : Ban Shi Lian Pi Yao You Dan Xing